This Christmas the SCCR are saying 5000 No More to the nearly 5000 young people that become homeless every year due to problems at home escalating and them leaving home. Help us to raise awareness of the effects of family arguments and fall outs and support families going through difficult times.
Tell us what are the things you argue about at Christmas?
share your top tips for resolving conflict and improving relationships!
Hi Abbey
Fortunately I usually have a great Christmas with family and friends however I have had ‘other’ family get togethers where things have not gone so well, resulting fallouts and break ups.
So, for those who may find themselves in this situation here are some tips:
If you find yourself getting wound up or annoyed, stay calm find a quiet place, take a deep breath, stay there, if you can enjoy the calm. Think about having a conversation rather than an argument, if you value the relationship then it is not about winning or being right it is about maintain and continuing your relationship, so you may have to concede or step back a bit. Aim to agree on a solution or a resolution, do not get hung up on the little things, agree on something and build on it. Focus on the issue or the problem and not the person, even if it is your annoying brother or sister – it’s Christmas. Thinks about what is it you need and what is it the other person needs, not your wants, it is your needs that are the important bit. Remember the other person is a human being and we all deserve respect – so be respectful at all times. And take responsibility for your own part in the situation after all it takes at least two to have an argument. See it as an opportunity to change things in the relationship with a view to improving it. So wishing everybody a happy, peaceful and a safe Christmas – Merry Christmas.